The Blame Game

But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you. Matthew 5:44

It starts early. “But Mom, he started it!” It comes naturally to us from a young age: We give what we’ve been given. Kindness begets kindness and anger begets anger. We even unconsciously mimic the energy level and body language of those around us in an effort to connect.

When we feel threatened, we become defensive and stand alert, like soldiers, ready to defend ourselves or perhaps even execute a surprise attack before our adversary can. Having a perpetually defensive spirit damages the key component of our close relationships: trust.

Satan excels at fueling blame and hate. He cheers when we harbor deep resentments that slowly close us off from those around us. While there are harmful and unsafe people, we do not need to become a part of the hate cycle. The antidote to a defensive spirit are compassion, humility, and forgiveness. Jesus reveals in word and action that although it is excruciating and sacrificial to bless and love our enemies, it is the only way to live.

All change comes from deepening your understanding of the salvation of Christ and living out the changes that understanding creates in your heart. Timothy Keller

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