The Scriptures require spiritual leaders to be a “One woman man.” (1 Timothy 3:2). Here are a few suggestions that may prove helpful:
EYES — Remember the song, “I Only Have Eyes for You“? We must determine to only “look” at our wives. Lustful gazes are acts of adultery. (Matthew 5:29; Job 31:1)
C. S. Lewis said, “If you look at ham and eggs with lust, you already have committed breakfast.”
EARS — How easily we can be sexually stimulated by what we hear. Proverbs cautions us, “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil.” (Proverbs 5:3)
LIPS — A man committed to his wife does not flatter other women: “Whoever flatters his neighbor is spreading a net for his feet.” (Proverbs 29:5)
HANDS — Paul admonishes us to “Treat… younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.” (1 Timothy 5:2). The manner in which we relate physically to our sisters should serve as a guideline in our association with other women.
FEET — We can easily identify with the statement, “I can resist anything but temptation.” Perhaps that’s why the Scriptures warn us to “Flee youthful lusts… ” (2 Timothy 2:22a)
David stood and looked at naked Bathsheba and ended up committing adultery and murder. By contrast, Joseph fled Potifer’s seductive wife and remained pure. (2 Samuel 11; Genesis 39)
MIND — It is only by the renewing of the mind that we can expect to live a pure life: “Let God re-mold your minds from within, so that you may prove in practice that the plan of God for you is good… ” (Romans 12:2b – Philips Translation) God’s Word is central to the renewal process.
QUESTION: Are you allowing anything into your mind that is making the renewal process unnecessarily difficult?
HEART — Wise old Solomon cautioned us, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)
Thus, emotional involvement with a person of the opposite sex is often an early step in the process that culminates in the act of adultery.
QUESTION: Does your present attitude and pattern of behavior indicate a deep resolve to remain a “ONE WOMAN MAN“?