Perhaps we have had the experience of finding ourselves attracted toward someone of the opposite sex… someone other than our spouse. Subtly… inadvertently, we could be drawn into an emotional involvement of “spiritual adultery” that could ultimately lead to the act of adultery.
Here are a few of the vital warning signs:
The tendency to share private, intimate matters with a certain acquaintance before having talked it out with our spouse.
Finding more delight in being with a certain person other than our spouse.
Spending inordinate amounts of time with one member of the opposite sex. Catching ourselves inventing unnecessary reasons to be apart with this person and away from the scrutiny or interference of others.
Thinking that a certain person understands us better than our spouse.
Comparing our spouse with this other person and finding our mate coming up short.
Feeling youthful or “high” around that one particular person.
Denying the fact that we are into something wrong by projecting on others an aggressive defensiveness whenever anyone tries to give us a timely warning.
Stubbornly maintaining that the relationship is a “platonic” one. Being unwilling to hear the warnings of others; becoming wounded when others can’t see it our way; offended that they seem unwilling or incapable of trusting our judgment.
Finding reasons to disqualify or alienate ourselves from longtime or wise friends’ warnings, while finding new “friends” who condone or are indifferent to what we are doing.
Our prayer in dealing with this difficult and sensitive issue could be, “Lord,… Give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.” (Psalm 86:11b)