This morning I crept back into the bedroom to kiss my wife good-bye before catching an early flight out to Malaysia.
Groggily she muttered, “I forgot to pack your ties… Wes (our son) called last night… Do you have handkerchiefs?” A hug, a kiss – and out the door to the airport… savoring that warm sense of belonging.
This is my woman and I am her man.
Here are five good reasons why our marriage works:
1. We take time to cultivate a close walk with Christ, thereby helping to ensure the fact that we share a common vision and mission.
“Let us draw near [to God] with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith… May… God… give you a spirit of unity as you follow Christ Jesus… “ (Hebrews 10:22a; Romans 15:5a)
2. We respect each other in our differences; we take each other seriously.
“There are different kinds of gifts… ministries… (and) effects, but the same God works all of them in all men.” (1 Corinthians 12:4-6)
3. We choose to identify and attack our problems rather than each other.
“Let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead… ” (1 Peter 3:8, 9a)
4. We laugh a lot, taking time to play and have fun together.
“A joyful heart makes a cheerful face, but when the heart is sad, the spirit is broken.” (Proverbs 15:13)
5. I lead and she follows.
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church… ” (Ephesians 5:22a)
Ruth has hung in there with me these 33 years, through the easy and tough times, clearly understanding the term “helpmate“. (Genesis 2:18) We most likely are in the 4th quarter of our lives now. I understand we are now viewed as “Senior Citizens“. When I return home in a few days, we’ll probably spend the evening playing Scrabble and tennis, and then relax around an old movie. We‘ve not had better days…